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Picking up the pieces part 7 – The Revenge Factor
I have been writing a lot about my day to day struggle with coming to grips with my Husband’s affair, and even though I come off as a pitiful, whiny little girl. At least that is how it would sound to me if I was reading this about someone else; however I hope that in someway I possibly could be helping someone else who is going through a similar situation.
So in this chapter I want to tell you about something that I did that I hope will make me look a little stronger (hopefully not pathetic or desperate). Back in late March I was going through an obsession about finding everything about the women my Husband had the affair with. I also wanted to make sure that not only was my Husband done with her that she would for sure be done with him.
I have been in contact with this person’s boyfriend since she sent the Face book message to my friend exposing the affair. The day after I found out I contacted him to let him know of the affair. Well being the great manipulator she is, she was able to convince him that both my Husband and I were lying. That she knew about him having an affair with someone else and her reason for getting the word to me was some sort of ridicules “sisterhood” favor she was doing for me. Needless to say her boy friend decided that without “proof” he had to believe her, even when my Husband was able to give specific details of her parent’s bedroom where they had sex for the first time.
One night I logged onto my Husband messenger account and sent a text message to her phone. It was very late at night and basically said to her that “I missed talking to her” and gave her what I had said was his “new” cell phone number, when in fact it was my cell phone number. The next morning my cell phone rang and I noticed it was her number, I knew her number due to the 100′s of text messages between her and him, that I found after the fact. I was never the type to “check up” on him, never had a reason too. I let the call go to voicemail which I had changed to the automatic computer voice; she did not leave a message. I waited a couple hours and then sent her a text asking if that was her that called? She took no time to text back, at first she did not believe that is was him I of course was easily able to convince her I believe because she really wanted it to be him. I told her that things had been terrible since he had broken it off with her and that he choose the wrong women to be with. I asked her to give “us” another chance, that as soon as I am completely free that I wanted to be with her.
Now you may be thinking how were you able to do this, well we text back and forth for the next few hours until she had to go to her job. She was still not convinced that is was him, I told her that I would do something that would convince her once and for all. That night I told my Husband what I was doing, he did not like any of it but he was not going to stop me, nor could he have. Then I told him that I needed his help, I needed him to use my phone to call her voicemail and leave a message so that she would really believe that it was him that she was texting. He called her number, I knew she was at work and did not get off until 11:00pm and could not answer the phone. He left a very simple “Hi it’s me and I hope this helps you believe its me” By 11:15 my phone was ringing, it was her number I did not answer it, and then she left a text and all it said was “Thank you”. The next morning I sent her a text asking if she now believes that it was him. She believed it, but was not sure she could trust him. Since he had hurt her so bad; so again I spent the day texting her and basically “courting” her. When it came time for her to go to her job, I then asked her to call my cell phone and leave me a message that would make me smile. I told her I was going into a meeting and really needed a message that would get me through the rough nights. I also told her that we would make plans to meet up very soon.
Within minutes my phone was ringing with her number, I let it go to voicemail and in another minutes I got the voicemail notice. The message she left, I will paraphrase she said that she was still angry with him for breaking up with her and making her feel like she was just a piece of ass. Then she said; but she never loved anyone like she loved him and would wait even if it takes months just to be with him. There was more but nothing more incriminating. So my next move was to text her boyfriend and ask if he was free after work, that I had something for him to hear. We met and I presented him with the voicemail and all the texts from the last couple days. I know its mean but he needed to know who he was with and that she was a liar and a manipulator. He was visibly hurt when he heard the part about my Husband being the love of her life; again this is something he needed to hear. He asked if somehow I could forward the voicemail to him. I was able to do this, plus forward him the texts she had sent. When i got home I told my husband of the meeting and let him hear the voicemail, he asked if I was done with this and I said that it all depends on what her boyfriend does with the information.
The next day I waited as long as I could before texting her, and the response that I got was great. She knew it was me and became very verbally abusive, no worries I can take it. She accused me of ruining her life, now anyone reading this should find that very funny. Especially if you have read what I have been going through all these months. I let her know just how stupid she was for falling for my trap and that she was just a desperate nothing that tried to latch on to a man that she thought could take care of her in a way that every man she has ever been with couldn’t. We exchanged a few more texts, none of which were friendly and then I blocked her from ever calling or texting any of our cell phones. I sent a text to her boyfriend to make sure he was o.k. he did not get back to me right away. On my way home from work he called me, to apologize for what his girlfriend has put me through. I told him that he had no reason to apologize for her. I blame my Husband for the affair; however she was part to blame since she knew all along that he was married and she kind of knew me. I wished him luck, and he did the same. I have had no contact with either of them since.
That was my revenge, maybe it was not much. But I did what I felt was better then using physical violence and risking getting in legal trouble.
** To let you know what is going on with my marriage, last couple weeks have been up and down. We had a blow up but we got though it and have come to an agreement that we will not discuss divorce for 6 months. Our 10 year wedding anniversary is Aug 19th we are going away for 4 days just the two of us. I do not know where we are going, he has planned everything. I will update after our weekend.
Thank you again for taking time to read about my life, I will answer any responses good or bad. Also any questions you might have for me.
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